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If you haven't had the chance to read my previous post "Truth By Bella's Pink & Blue Letters" before this video, this video & post is going to sum what was said. You could read the previous post also, if you're unclear.
Here's a quick video & a post explain in case you didn't catch everything explained.
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Quick post below to summarize what you just watched!
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Thank you for your time,
Isabella, TruthByBella
Hi everyone,
My lovely viewers, it has been a WHILE! When school is in session, I took a hiatus from blogging, photography & most social media networks. I actually enjoy using Snapchat because I get the chance to post something really quick & back to work.
I know you're probably interested on what the title of the post means with "Pink & Blue Letters". I'm going to explain it now. I'm sure everyone has seen that movie "Think Like A Man" or some have even read the book "Think Like A Man, Act Like A Day". Confession: I read the book & watch the movie countless of times. :) Steve Harvey was brilliant with that & gave females a notion into what guys think about. His radio station has read "Strawberry Letters" every morning.
Strawberry Letters: Letters emailed to Steve Harvey & Shirley's radio station when older people talk about their current relationships and basically asking for advice. It's completely anonymous. I've heard some interesting letters on their radio station.
So Truth By Bella is doing same thing here. Here's your chance to receive advice from me. I must say I'm candid, honest person.
It's called Pink & Blue Letters.
You, the reader, could send an email to: truthbybella16@gmail.com
The subject line of the email depends on what sex you are
^ Subject Line: Pink Letter (Females) or Blue Letter (Males) ^
In the body, start off with "Dear Isabella" or "Hey Bella", then you could talk about a past or current relationship/friendship you're in. A situation you would want honest advice on. Everything is confidential. I would advise you to NOT add any names in your letter. However if you do, I will change the name to a generic one. Make sure you explain the situation well enough so I could understand & be able to give clear advice.
When you're done, sign with an Adjective on how you're feeling
I'm going to create a video to explain if you're not clear on what I mean :)
Hope to hear from you soon,
Isabella
Welcome back to Truth By Bella,
2015 was an unpredictable year! I must say I'm already loving the start of 2016. This year is all about Positive Vibes Only (PVO). That's the Motto! YOLO? :)
Coming soon to Truth By Bella is a video from Isabella on Plans for TBB in 2016. Before the video comes out, I'm going to need a quick favor from all viewers. I would like you to participate in a quick survey so we all together could make this year FUN! It will take less than 2 minutes to complete.
Link: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/6F5J92F
Bet you didn't know Isabella is a Business & Event Planning Student! Just a Fun Fact for future posts, keep note of that :) Be on the watch for the upcoming video & give-aways on here!
Thank you for your time,
Truth By Bella (Isabella)
It’s time for play a game! So my best friend Shameir & I came up with this idea. “Would You Rather” is a fun party or conversation game where one poses a list of questions starting with “Would you Rather”. You are allowed to choose any one option from questions like “Would you rather whisper or shout everything?” You are not permitted to choose “both” or “neither.” There is no correct answer to this. You have all the answers to choose from! All Truth By Bella needs is your participation.
Link to Survey Here Below:
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Q3936WF
Happy Holidays to you & your family
Thank you for participating in "Would You Rather?",
Truth By Bella (Isabella B.) & Skipshots (Shameir)
Welcome Back Viewers,
If you haven’t caught up with Dating in 2015 (Pt. 1), you should do that now before continuing this post. This post will still be here once you’re done.
Yesterday, I noted that I would move into discussing about The Ugly Truths of Dating for today. I did a bit of research for the rules. I’m thankful that I found articles that had guys’ perspective on the rules. It is always best to know what the other sex thinks about this. Truth be told, if I only did my perspective, guys would feel that the blog post is bias.
The modern rules of dating are not real. There are no rules. It's like Whose Line is it Anyway?: Everything is made up and the points don't matter. There are ugly truths about modern dating that you may deal with. I’m going to name 8 of them for you.
1. The person who cares less has all the power. Nobody wants to be the one who’s more interested.
2. A person being carefree because they have zero interest in you looks exactly like a person being carefree because they think you’re amazing & are making a conscious effort to play it cool. Good luck deciphering between the two.
3. Chances are, most of your relationship’s communication will happen via text, which is the most detached, impersonal form of interaction. Get familiar with those emoticon options.
4. The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.
5. “Let’s chill” & “Wanna hang out?” are unclear phrases that likely mean “let’s hookup” — and while you probably hate receiving them, they’re the common way to invite someone to spend time these days, and appear to be here to stay.
6. The text message you sent went through. If they didn’t respond, it wasn’t because of malfunctioning phone carrier services.
7. So many people are scared of commitment and being official that they’ll remain in a label-free relationship, which blurs lines and only works until it doesn’t. One partner is bonded to want a committed relationship.
8. When dating, instead of expressing how they feel directly to you, a person is more likely to post a Facebook status or Instagram a photo of a sunset with a quote or song lyric of someone else’s words on it, and while it may not mention your name, it’s obviously directed at you.
If you have been or are currently in the dating phrase, I’m positive that at least one of the truths stated above has been true for you or someone you know.
Most individuals don't commit because we refuse to settle and we are unsatisfied because nobody fits the image we have in our mind of what our perfect partner is supposed to look like. We’re attached to technology. Restaurants and social events no longer need mood lighting because they are lit up by people staring into their cell phones trying to find the next date because dating is no longer something fun and romantic. Today’s dating has become full of missed connections, mixed signals, broken hearts and broken plans, unrequited love and a full-blown addiction for some people.
If we do commit, we know that our buffet tray of options is still there, still just one simple step to the right away. Shouldn't texts or phone calls shouldn't go purposefully ignored as a way to seem "cool" or above it all" to our potential partners? No, instead we are so numb to emotions and sentimentality that we still sit around an "appropriate amount of time" before responding so they will "miss" us and "want" us more. We want to be missed and we want to be wanted, but we don't want to miss someone and we don't want to want someone because then we will feel exposed, raw and real. We become concern with who knows that we're together and posting couple photos. If you truly like or love the person, it should not matter if anyone knows. Truthfully, you'll show off the person you want to be with to the world cause he/she should represent you.
Maybe we'll eventually realize how love, romance, and intimacy are evolving into something almost unrecognizable to older generations because of our behavior and our relationship to technology. Let’s be honest with ourselves here.
When is the last time you actually went to up to your date’s door to announce your arrival rather than send a text saying "Here," to them? When is the last time you didn't look at your phone once during a date? When is the last time you held sustained eye contact during dinner without flinching and didn't try to appear indifferent and cold? What happened to manners, politeness, and kindness for the sake of themselves? What happened to telling stupid and potentially embarrassing jokes and stories? What happened to sappiness?
I'm no expert on relationships or love, having only ever had one partner in my life so far, but I do know that love, relationships, courtship, and dating should not be about mind games or jealousy. If Marriage isn't the goal, why are you in a relationship? We’re stuck in showing off naked bodies with naked ring fingers. I hope that people from this generation still look forward to their futures to marry their potential soul mate. Love shouldn’t be painful nor scary. Love should be a celebration of two people’s lives intertwining into something inexplicably magical. Everybody deserves to be with someone who will melt when they see you and get butterflies when they think of you. I look forward to attending more weddings of people from this generation in the future.
This concludes the talk on Dating in 2015 & Ugly Truths of Dating. There is still time to change your future before you end up dealing with something you truly do not want. Be the change in the world you want to see! The truth has been told :)
Don't be afraid to comment below what you thought about the two posts!
Thank you for your time,
Truth By Bella (Isabella B.)
Truth By Bella Is Back In Action & Running With New, Interesting Topics!
Ever think sometimes you were born in the wrong generation. Wanted to ever experience the old fashioned way of dating such as going out to drive in movie theaters. Sharing milkshakes with your significant other. Laughing at things you both find funny rather interesting.
I must say that rules of dating has truly changed. Especially in 2015, dating is so different. We are bombarded with texts, selfies, emojis, and more every single day to the point where we no longer fall in love while holding hands during a walk through the countryside under starlit skies or in the flash of city lights, but instead scrolling through Instagram for MCMs & WCWs or at our computer screens at 3 a.m. We search for something that can't actually be found.
It’s sad how some people look to social media as inspiration for relationships. Wanting relationships like Beyonce & Jay Z or even Kanye West & Kim Kardashian. Individuals treat social media sometimes as their guide to achieve aspiring “relationship goals” instead trying to accomplish real “life goals”.
Don’t get me wrong, not everyone from today’s generation is like what I stated above. There are others out there who are managing their goals along with their relationship with a significant other. Focused on career goals and their spiritual life. A big up to you, if that’s what you are doing.
Trust me, aspiring your relationship similarly to what you see on social media will not benefit you. You never know what every couple is going through behind closed doors. Of course, everyone is going to smile in public and put on a front. Think about are things actually what they seem?
To make this post captivating, the addition of a few GIFs should help show some typical situations. I conducted a survey on dating with 32 different people. It’s always best to add in evidence to support a point being made.
First question to my survey was “What’s your current relationship status?”
Answer choices:
Single & Not Looking
Happily Taken
Just Chilling & Doing Me
Dating More Than One Person
18 out of 32 respondents (56%) selected their current relationship status as “Just Chilling” and doing them. 12 out of 32 (38%) considered themselves as “Happily Taken”.
It’s likely for those who would consider themselves as “Just Chilling & Doing Me” to fall into the hookup epidemic. I’m not a relationship expert; I’m just a well rounded female blogger. Furthermore, let me explain & show what I’ve notice about dating in 2015. So bare with me & take notes on what aspects I touch on along with advice given.
People have so many dating rules, it’s hard to keep track. I'm sure we have all broken at least some of those rules, or have been granted the well-known "exception" to someone else's. One of the most common rules of dating is not sleeping together on the first date; some can’t even fathom kissing on the first date (which seems a little rigid if you ask me).
On how many dates should a first kiss & holding hands occur? 13 out of 32 respondents answered on the 2nd date. 8 out of 32 stated it should happen on the 3rd date. If you think that timing doesn’t matter, think again my friend.
For me, "the right time" has always differed, but in general, if there is a true connection you will both feel the magic. In fact, I think an innocent kiss at least on the second date is totally harmless. It could be a make or break for some potential relationships. For this generation, first date kisses usually happen in the middle of the date. It certainly does not hold true for every pair.
Another interesting fact about today's dating that I've noticed is that some people find their dating partners on social media or should I say a “dating app”. Individuals may not admit to their curiosity on the app Tinder or OKCupid. It is okay if you have been on there for a quick second. Weirdly usual for this generation. I hope you’re aware what Tinder actually for (it’s a hook up app). Had to let those who didn’t know what it is. Do not think that going on Tinder or OKCupid will help you find the love of your life. Shame to those who tried to use LinkedIn as a dating site.
Instead of dating others to get over the feelings of loneliness & desperation, how about you date yourself over and over again until fall in love with who you are so much that those feelings lose its power over you. Becoming whole should be your priority and not just settling for anything/anyone. When you're ready to start dating, make sure you know what you want you're looking for. Take the old fashioned route, go out to socialize & meet new people in person. Who knows whom you might meet?
Dating has become extremely causal. When I say “causal”, I’m referring to in the sense of clothing and locations. Ladies and gentlemen, if you find yourself wearing a rusty T-shirt with jeans or sweatpants for your dates; you’re doing it all wrong!
I know that wearing jeans and sweatpants are comfortable. Gentlemen, it does not hurt wearing a nice button up with some chinos. Put on some cologne and wear a watch to become Mr. Nice Watch (J Cole reference). Ladies, it shouldn’t hurt to put on some nice shoes or pumps with a dress or blouse along with pants/skirt. Make your date outfit something to remember.
Moving onto locations, don't take your date out for fast food – he or she is a human being, not a garbage landfill.
If that’s what you could afford at the moment, you will better off going to a café to grab drinks. Sit down and get to know each other. Don't plan a date at fancy restaurant if you do not want your date to get used to & always expect that in the future. However, going to a fancy restaurant with your significant other once a blue moon will not hurt.
A first date should allow partners to chat and get to know one another. Don’t make it an interview, hold a conversation.
Attention: Netflix & Chilling is not a date; just a code for “Let’s Get It On” if you know what I mean. These GIFs below should help make things clear
Most of my survey respondents expressed their most common date is doing something new and fun. That’s great to hear! If you’re tired of going out to restaurants, doing something enjoyable such as bowling, going to a theme park, work out together, or go salsa/ballroom dancing (regards if you could dance or not). It's all about making & keeping a long lasting, meaningful connection. Your dates should be exciting to look forward to.
In 2015, how likely is for you to go on a date like I stated above? Tomorrow, I will move into what it is truly to happen in today's dating scenery. Excited to present the "Modern Rules Of Dating".
Thank you for your time,
Truth By Bella (Isabella B.)
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